Sometimes, the most powerful ideas are not physical inventions or new systems. Sometimes, something so simple as a new way of thinking is all it takes to change your life for the better. And sometimes, it’s not a brand new concept. But rather an idea that is served up in a fresh way, so you see from a new perspective.
That’s exactly what happened when this idea hit me: a “Give up” meeting.
My wife and I are working on some aggressive goals. And any goal worth going after will require some sacrifice. The loftier the goal, the greater the sacrifice required to achieve it.
So, to achieve significant goals in our lives, it occurred to me that we have to make some significant changes because one thing you cannot do is expect different results from your same activities, habits and ways of thinking. To do something different, you have to do something different. Sounds logical, right?
And it follows that in order to make that kind of change in your life, you have to stop spending time doing something that is keeping you from doing what you should be doing.
We live in an A.D.D. world. That is, more things are screaming for our attention than ever before. Social media, for example. How many of us browse Facebook, Instagram or Twitter when we have nothing else to do. It’s a way for us to avoid being bored. Or rather, a way for us to fill our time so we don’t feel guilty from lack of being intentional with our time.
Shiny objects are everywhere.
We’re busy. Nobody is not busy (double negative, I know, but hang in there with me). In fact, our lives are so full, there is a multi-billion dollar industry trying to get us to slow down. The question is, what are we busy doing? The most successful people among us have the same 24 hours as a lazy Boomeranger who plays video games 8 hours a day. What’s the difference? They spend their time doing different things. Both are busy, different outcome.
So, it stands to reason that in order to get different results in our lives, we HAVE to give up things that are keeping us from achieving those goals. That is, we have to shave off the fat and focus our attention on activities that bring about the most results.
Hence, the “Give up” meeting. Sit down with your significant other, accountability partner, mastermind group, management team or business partner. Whomever you can trust. Someone who loves you enough to hold your feet to the fire, in a kind way. Someone who will support and encourage you. Kind but firm. Sit down with that person and tell them what you are willing to give up in order to achieve your goal. That’s it.
For me, it might be social media.
If the other person is going through the same thing, you might make a game of it. Go around and one by one, each of you say something you will be willing to give up for the next number of days or weeks. Go back and forth until you’ve exhausted all your extracurricular activities. Write out the list, give it to each other and/or post it on the wall where you can see it every day.
Then, ever time you go to do the thing you gave up, spend that time on your goal instead. I think you’ll be amazed at how much more time you have that you didn’t realize was available to you in the first place.
Post your reaction/results in the comments below. I’d love to hear how this goes for everyone.